When I visited the Gayer Anderson museum my guide kept apologising and saying “sorry, sorry, sorry” when talking about Gayer Anderson. Half way through I figured out this was because Anderson was gay and in a relationship with his live in Nubian servant. Honestly, I explained, do not apologize because in the United States this is “mish mushkila” (no problem) – except for the slave part obviously, but even that is complicated. For once I felt pride about the US, in light of recent media judgement of muslims and coverage of violence with guns. But this happiness faded as I learned more about Anderson’s colonialist lifestyle.